Intimate
Planning a small private wedding
If a small private wedding is what you both want, yes you can have it.. Weddings may traditionally be considered a time of Big celebration, large expenses and large guest lists, but it is a couple’s personal decision to have a large celebration or a simple private event. With the proper planning and execution, you can have the small private wedding you will be happy with.
It will be difficult to pull off a small wedding without hurting some feelings. Explain to any offended would-be guests that you love them and you appreciate their support but not all their requests can be accommodated. Express sympathies to your offended family. Always be compassionate and apologetic. Explain that it wasn’t your intention to offend and let anyone who feels offended know you value them not only as a person, but you also value their desire to be supportive on your special day. Let people know from the start that you are planning an intimate affair by saying things like, “we decided to go with a smaller venue” or "our budget is pretty minimal." This will help manage expectations before any potentially uncomfortable confrontations.
Your mom or other family members may feel akward or embarrassed with a small wedding. Be open and frank about why you want it this way. Take the responsibility for the decision. Get them involved in doing things for you. What are they good at. Can they take over the decorations or favors? Having a stress-free wedding is all about delegating, and the wedding party is there to help, not to just look nice. When your bridal party comes to mind, assign tasks related to each ones interest.